the following was sent out in the december 17 newsletter of gamecrush.com, a videogame escort service. it’s a site where male players can pay money to arrange “playdates” of online games with woman players (users who posted on the site’s forums at the time of its launch suggesting the possibility of queer match-ups were banned). originally, “players” could request that their playmates be either “flirty” or “dirty”; now it seems as though these choices have been replaced with four “zones,” the fourth of which, “the edge,” sports a handcuff icon and the description, “this could get interesting. not for the faint of heart.” this advice column on dealing with “difficult players” is credited to an author named “lovelylisa”; i bolded the section i found the most problematic.
Talking to new Players is an important experience. They are checking out the site, deciding if they click with PlayDates and maybe they want to spend a little money. I know we all want them to come into our chat room with fistfuls of money! The ones who want to chat incessantly may get on our nerves, but if you take a deep breath and treat them well, you may just end up with a new regular! The rude & pushy Players can be hard to deal with as well, but there’s always a way to keep it positive. Here are some tips to handle the chatters & rude Players, as well as when it’s a good time to use the handy-dandy block feature:
1) Have patience, put yourself in the Player’s shoes. It’s a brand new site, and the Player might be on a tight budget or just isn’t sure about how much to spend, but still wants to talk to the bevy of beautiful and fun gamers GameCrush has to offer (can you blame them?!). Get to know the Players first by asking about their favorite games, favorite consoles, or what they do for fun. After all the niceties are out of the way, ask if they have played on the site before, or if they are new, make them feel welcome, and share about what the site has to offer. Set your own time limits for chatting. For some PlayDates it may be 30 minutes…for some, an hour. It’s whatever you’re comfortable with. Be creative, but try to afford anything resembling “gtfo”. Tempting, yes…but treat them well and you may have just found yourself a new GameCrush friend!
2) Try to handle rude Players by staying positive. I’ve found it to be very helpful if I avoid just saying the word “No” and address situations where I am uncomfortable in a more positive way. Negativity will only ruin the experience for everyone! Try to find creative ways to say no. For example, if a Player asks to see your boobs, say something like “I’m sorry, I don’t strip on cam, but I do love to spank…as in, I will spank you in Black Ops. Care to try to beat me?”. You can always suggest that Players check out the other three zones, or refer them to The Edge if they are being especially pushy: “I’m on here to have a great time and game with other cool gamers, but I think The Edge might be more to your liking. I hope you find the type of PlayDate you’re looking for!” I realize getting rude with rude Players can be hard NOT to do, but we are all representatives of GameCrush, and we want Players to love the site and to spend their credits playing games with us. Put a smile on your face (even if it IS through gritted teeth) and do your best to keep the experience positive.
3) Should I block a Player? First, if the Player’s attitude is more than you can tolerate, is out of your comfort zone, or if the Player just won’t leave, you should go ahead and block the Player and problem solved. Second, if Players says they will not be purchasing credits on GameCrush, or calls the site stupid, pointless, or a waste of money, and if you’ve tried your best to get the Player to move along in a nice way, use the block feature. Third, when Players come into your room & troll you by name-calling, IM bombing, or harassing other Players, blocking is the best solution. However, don’t get TOO block-happy! The feature is there to be used when a Player is too much to deal with and not a substitute for just asking them to leave. Hopefully the above tips will help you to stay focused on giving Players who visit the best experience possible, even when some can be difficult to deal with. Keep a smile on your face, stay as positive as positive, & focus on being your awesome self and the watch the credits start rolling in!
Hopefully the above tips will help you to stay focused on giving your Player the best experience possible, even when he’s difficult to deal with. Keep a smile on your face, stay as positive as possible, & focus on being your awesome self, so that you can create regulars and keep the credits rolling in!